Thursday 17 January 2008

trying to be more estherly

Sel-belle sent an email out to the sisters with an article written by Paul & Charo Washer (I am assuming this is Paul Washer's wife?). I found it to be pretty good. A link to the full article can be found here.

This part was the crux and I thought it was particularly good:

By no means is it a tragedy to be a single Christian woman, but the way of the world has once again infiltrated Christianity with the false idea that it is.

One of the greatest lies is that if you do not have someone or are not actively looking, there is something wrong with you. Another lie is that the single woman should be dating around as though looking for a husband were the same as shopping in a mall. Still another even stronger lie is that the single woman should be giving her affections away indiscriminately so that she may be more experienced and know what to do when she finally finds the man of her choice. My dear Christian, it is a lie and an affront to God to say that experience is the best teacher, when in fact it is God who is the best teacher, and though the world's motto is 'live and learn', the Bible's advice is learn and live. You do not need to be experienced, you only need to be knowledgeable of what God has said and obedient to it.

You should not be looking for the man of your choice, but should be waiting on the man of God's choice. And when he comes, it will not be past experiences that will make your marriage work, but past chastity, purity, and godliness. We should hide our faces from the ways and experiences of this wicked world and look upon only those things that God has placed in the path He has prepared for us.

God knows exactly what you need and He even knows the desires of your heart better than you do. God loves surprises. He does not want you to be looking for your husband, He wants to bring him to you, and probably at a time you least expect it. If you disobey this advice, as so many other women before you, and take it upon yourself to look for a mate, you may find someone, but chances are that someone you find will not be the right one.

As women, our nature desires the company and companionship of a man. This is from God and therefore good. But at the same time, we are wrong to think that death will be the result if this need is not fulfilled. Needing another as a companion is not like needing to take your next breath of air. That is, you can survive without companionship, at least until God has done His perfect work in you. Remember the Scripture,'God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.' (I Corinthians 10:13)


Not bad eh. I couldn't agree more. The verse in Psalms something something comes to mind 'delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart' (dunno where it is exactly). If we find contentment in God, He will bless us with things like a husband or wife. And He will not only give us any old husband or wife, but one who will be worth the wait. I really really believe that the closer we are to God, the closer our future husband or wife will be to God too. Think about it, God's not gonna pair you up with someone who is just going to put out your fire - He's going to lead you to someone who you'll be able to co-labour with and someone who will add fuel to your fire. That's what I believe anyway!

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Thursday 17 January 2008

trying to be more estherly

Sel-belle sent an email out to the sisters with an article written by Paul & Charo Washer (I am assuming this is Paul Washer's wife?). I found it to be pretty good. A link to the full article can be found here.

This part was the crux and I thought it was particularly good:

By no means is it a tragedy to be a single Christian woman, but the way of the world has once again infiltrated Christianity with the false idea that it is.

One of the greatest lies is that if you do not have someone or are not actively looking, there is something wrong with you. Another lie is that the single woman should be dating around as though looking for a husband were the same as shopping in a mall. Still another even stronger lie is that the single woman should be giving her affections away indiscriminately so that she may be more experienced and know what to do when she finally finds the man of her choice. My dear Christian, it is a lie and an affront to God to say that experience is the best teacher, when in fact it is God who is the best teacher, and though the world's motto is 'live and learn', the Bible's advice is learn and live. You do not need to be experienced, you only need to be knowledgeable of what God has said and obedient to it.

You should not be looking for the man of your choice, but should be waiting on the man of God's choice. And when he comes, it will not be past experiences that will make your marriage work, but past chastity, purity, and godliness. We should hide our faces from the ways and experiences of this wicked world and look upon only those things that God has placed in the path He has prepared for us.

God knows exactly what you need and He even knows the desires of your heart better than you do. God loves surprises. He does not want you to be looking for your husband, He wants to bring him to you, and probably at a time you least expect it. If you disobey this advice, as so many other women before you, and take it upon yourself to look for a mate, you may find someone, but chances are that someone you find will not be the right one.

As women, our nature desires the company and companionship of a man. This is from God and therefore good. But at the same time, we are wrong to think that death will be the result if this need is not fulfilled. Needing another as a companion is not like needing to take your next breath of air. That is, you can survive without companionship, at least until God has done His perfect work in you. Remember the Scripture,'God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.' (I Corinthians 10:13)


Not bad eh. I couldn't agree more. The verse in Psalms something something comes to mind 'delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart' (dunno where it is exactly). If we find contentment in God, He will bless us with things like a husband or wife. And He will not only give us any old husband or wife, but one who will be worth the wait. I really really believe that the closer we are to God, the closer our future husband or wife will be to God too. Think about it, God's not gonna pair you up with someone who is just going to put out your fire - He's going to lead you to someone who you'll be able to co-labour with and someone who will add fuel to your fire. That's what I believe anyway!

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